How do you date online safely in your 50s?
Go slowly, meet in public, keep money out of it, and treat any request for money from someone you have not met as a scam.
By BUMIS Editorial · October 1, 2026 · 5 min read · 6 sources
Single in Your 50s: Whether you are newly single or have been for years: clear, practical writing about what you want next.
Single in your fifties, explained plainly.
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By the numbers
20%
of adults ages 50 to 64 have ever used a dating site or app.
Pew Research Center, 2023. 6,034 U.S. adults, July 2022.
24%
of Gen X singles have used AI in their dating lives.
Kinsey Institute and Match, Singles in America, 2026. About 5,000 U.S. singles.
Half
of single U.S. adults are not looking for a relationship or dates right now.
Pew Research Center, 2020. U.S. adults, 2019 survey.
78%
of recent dating app users have felt burned out by the apps at least sometimes.
Forbes Health and OnePoll, 2024. 1,000 U.S. adults who used a dating app in the past year.
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